6 Nations – February 2016


Late last year (November-time I think) we got some 6 Nations tickets to watch France v Ireland and France v England at the Stade de France.

This weekend we (me, OH and OH’s parents) went to watch France v Ireland and it was a great match despite the rain. I really enjoyed being there, soaking up the spectators’ enthusiasm and watching it live.

It got me thinking about spending time with people and how I have changed during this project. I’m one of those people who reads the Buzzfeed posts about relief when plans are cancelled and it resonates. I don’t suffer from social anxiety I’m just a real homebody. One of my goals for this lifestyle overhaul was to make more time to spend with friends and family. I’m currently trying to meet up with at least one person once a week and so far, so good!

I really enjoy spending time with my friends (I’m not a completely anti-social being haha ;)) and making time to do things with them has made me noticeably happier. It also gives me more to talk about which should mean I’m more interesting to talk too. I love to discuss current events, films showing at the cinema and life updates.

To get into the habit of organising meet ups I remind myself that I won’t have these conversations on my own. I also look for activities that are on to see if there are any takers. I have started tracking ideas in an Excel file especially for upcoming events so I don’t forget! I have divided the columns into free activities and activities with a cost so that I can easily see what I can do even if it’s the end of the month and money is a bit tighter.

Living in a city a lot of activities cost something but you can usually find something to do for free. I like to check on the Time Out website as they usually have plenty of inspiration and a diverse choice of things to do. I have also planned some walking tours for when Unicorn Princess visits in March (I will share the link to the google map once it’s finished).

What are your favourite things to do with friends and family?

Here is a bonus idea of something to do together : another cookie recipe!

These oatmeal and raisin cookies are gorgeous but let them cool down a little or they will fall apart. I cooled them for 5-10 minutes on the tray and then moved them to a wire rack (aka one of my oven shelves on the counter top…)

Oatmeal raisin cookies

The raisins in these are so juicy that the biscuit has a texture similar to flapjacks.

Bitten cookie

Keep Climbing and share your activity ideas in the comments below!


6 Weeks Check-in


I can’t believe we’re already mid-February! The last 6 weeks have flown by and here we are with Valentine’s Day in 2 days. I won’t post what I’ve bought for my OH as he reads this and it’ll give the game away but we’re exchanging gifts tonight as we’re off to the rugby tomorrow 🙂

When I made the decision to change aspects of my lifestyle I did not expect to be sitting here 6 weeks later and 5kg lighter! It’s given me a real boost to get back on track and start posting more regularly (I’ve even drawn up a posting schedule and timeline which may turn into a proper project dashboard haha!)

The last 6 weeks have been filled with ups and downs in different areas of my life. I ate more sugar last week than I have done in the last 3 months combined. I was disappointed in myself but this week I’ve been much more controlled and feel a lot better for it. It’s not worth berating yourself over one sloppy week when you can cheer for 5 good ones plus the ones to come.

There were some problems at work which needed addressing. I don’t like standing up to authority and so I had to dig deep and find some courage to confront the issues. When I need to challenge someone or manage some sort of conflict I’ve always used the DESC method.

DESC is used to resolve conflicts but also to help make situations clearer.

The first step is to Describe what happened. It is really important to stick to the facts and go through the situation in the order things happened. It can sound a bit like “You said, I said” but this is needed to set the scene.

The second step is to Explain how the situation made you feel. Use concrete examples from the facts you have already explained and only speak from your perspective. Avoid speaking about the other person’s emotions – you are not in their head and would only be guessing.

Next you need to Share what you would like to see happen in this situation the next time it happens. Come up with a positive action plan that will either avoid this happening again or enable you to handle it in a more positive way.

Lastly, you need to Compromise on what you will do differently next time. None of us are perfect and there is always room for a little improvement. Offer something that you commit to doing in the future.

This really helps me to breakdown the problem into small facts and explain them in a calm, clear manner. I have used this technique since university and it hasn’t failed me yet. Explaining how things have made me feel is not easy to articulate and I have to find my bravery to get through it but I know that I will feel so much lighter and less stressed when my feelings are out in the open. It is important to hold on to past successes but also to visualise future ones.

It can be really helpful to role-play the conversation in your head to explore different trains of thought and possible points the other person could raise. I find that if I have already projected myself into the situation in my mind and played through it that when it comes to the real moment I am much calmer and able to clearly express what I need to say. It can take a bit of practice before you get it right but it’s worth having a go.

The result of my recent DESC conversation was that I was confirmed in my job on a permanent contract so it really can be worthwhile to go through this method.

Keep Climbing and look up high to see over the problem to the other side.